Sunday, June 29, 2014

Davenport, Ralph W. 1926-2014 Sherburne NY

88th Surprise birthday party.  Ralph with wife Donna, son Paul, daughter Susan, her husband Dave, and their son, Michael.  Photo taken May 18, 2014. 
Ralph Wallace Davenport 88, of Sherburne, NY
Was born into spirit on June 13, 2014 in Norwich, NY.
He had fought a long battle with several health issues including cancer.
He was born May 19, 1926 in Campbell Hall, NY, a son of Emerson and Minnie (Alton) Davenport. He spent his childhood on their family farm in Orange County. A point of interest in his family line is that his grandfather Alton stowed away at 11 years old to come to America from Ireland.

Ralph graduated from Washingtonville High School in 1943. We last attended their 67th class reunion.
In 1944, he volunteered to join the US Army and was proud to say he “was a World War II Infantry veteran”. He saw action at the Battle of the Bulge and then mop operations in Belgium and Holland.
He had reenlisted. then his father died and he came home to run the family farm.

On November 27, 1948, he married Daphne Ruhlaman. They had 3 sons. Alan (Louise) 1949-1974, Robert (Helene) of Haw River, NC and Lee (Joy) of Lititz, PA. Three grandchildren , Michael (Tammy), Jonathan (Jacinda), and Jennefer (Brad) Weaver and 6 great grandchildren, Abby and Mikayla Weaver, Hope, Levi, Holly, and Maggie Davenport.

One sister, Beulah Odell predeceased him in 2002. Nieces Jan and Sunny, nephews Kevin and Lonnie survive. There were 2 other marriages. Constance Rose Zigman and Linda Lawton. His previous wives are deceased. Constance in 1979, Linda in 2006, and Daphne in 2011.

He moved to a farm in Sherburne with son Alan in 1968.
On August 22, 1975 he married Donna (Boice) King, who survives. Their children are daughter, Susan (David) Langenfeld, Palmyra, NY, son Paul Davenport, Sherburne, stepdaughter, Beth King (Scott Barra) of Rosendale, NY and grandson Michael Langenfeld.

He was a dairy farmer most of his life. He later worked at Bennett Ireland, Blue Seal Feeds, Gladding Corp. and as night security at Chenango Memorial Hospital. His last job was delivering The Press and Sun Bulletin in the village of Sherburne.
He was a Grange member from age 14. He often volunteered attending the back gate at the Chenango County Fair as well as preparing food at the Methodist Food booth. He loved to dance. He belonged to the Broken Square many years. He and wife, Donna, as well as their children and foster children all enjoyed this family activity.

He enjoyed volunteering, especially delivering meals-on-wheels. He delivered to Earlville, Symrna, and Otselic shut ins and checked on them. He received an award for driving 5000 miles delivering meals for 2002. He had a lifelong love of tractors and was an enthusiastic member of TOYS (Tractors of Yesteryears). His favorites were Farmall tractors. Ironicly, the night he died, he was wearing a t-shirt with tractors on it with the saying “Tractors Never Die”.

Other surviving family are Arthur and Margaret Boice, Willis (Red) and Sue Boice, all of Norwich, and Richard and Linda King of Schnectady. There were numerous foster children especially Kevin Jones (Teresa) of VA, Donald (Jennie) Rogers of Norwich, and Diana (Bernie) Brazee, of Oxford.

A celebration of his life will be on Monday, June 16th at 4 PM at the Dakin Funeral Home in New Berlin, NY with military honors. Rev. Lyle Linder will officiate. Memorial donations may be made to the Sherburne Fire Dept. whose EMTs have been so helpful and good to us. Or to the Norwich Rehab and Nursing Center whose staff were very caring and helped us through a difficult time.

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Have a Fun Filled Memorial Day Weekend

Happy Memorial Day Weekend,

We started off this week by pulling off a surprise 88th birthday party for Ralph.  Our daughter
Sue came up with the idea and did the arranging.  We made calls and it came together nicely
with friends and family sharing the special event with us.  Sixteen of us enjoyed a meal at
Quack's Diner in Madison, NY.   Several of the guests also attended his 80th Birthday Party
when he was younger!

On the way home, I glanced back to check on him in the van.  All I could see was birthday
balloons.  He was completely submerged in the balllons and sound asleep.  And I didn't
even think to have Paul take a photo.  I'm slipping!

After a hectic week of Dr. visits and 2 more units of blood yesterday for Ralph, I'm very happy
to just stay quietly at home and get in a good nap this afternoon.  Finding the sink buried
in dishes was the first order of the day.  And I started a good book as well.
A perfect Memorial Weekend for this year.

I'm learning more than I wanted to learn about cancer and the caregiver role.  I can't imagine
trying to deal with all that is involved without a medical background.  A nurse told me yesterday
they have to 'learn fast and be assertive'. 

As of 2 weeks ago,  my husband's prostate test (PSA) was  up to 117.  We are still in limbo to start the
new hormone pill.  Very expensive, so has to be processed through insurance companies, the
pharmacal company, help from the cancer center social worker, etc.  I received a call saying the
copay was $2000.  Shock time!  So, coordination and help is hopefully going to get it all
implemented, sooner rather than later as the other med obviously hasn't been working for
sometime now.

Since he has so much bone involvement, he can't make enough red blood cells on his own. 
Hence, the 3rd round of blood transfusions so far.  The first in Oct., then 6 weeks ago, and again yesterday. 
We have that done at Fox Hospital in Oneonta.  Their ambulatory department staff have been
super each time.  They are extremely patient with him.  He comes in very weak and needing lots of assistance.  They have been wonderful to me also.

Two units of blood takes approximately 5 hours to transfuse.  He slept most of that time, all the
way home, and all evening.  What a difference this morning.  He was more alert, had some pink
in his cheeks and praise be, was abit more hungry.  He hasn't been taking in enough nourishment to
maintain his body needs.  

Because his protein level was low,  he was retaining even more fluid than usual, so we've been
dealing with that also.  That doesn't help his congestive heart failure issue.  They hit him with
20 mg of IV lasix times 3 along with the blood.  One can appreciate the fine balance our bodies
try to maintain to keep us in good health.

Thank you for thoughts and prayers.


Tuesday, May 13, 2014

Springtime Update

Hello to my followers,

I hope you are all having a wonderful spring.  I'm quite happy to have the weather warming slowly as
I like the cooler weather.  Having my window open for sleep again is so nice.  And I can hear the
mighty chorus of peepers from the nearby swamp and ponds.

We made it through this frigid winter in this old 1880s house with the high heating bills along with the
rest of you.  Another reason to be thankful for spring and warmer weather.

After the radiation, my husband had a 4 month break from the pain from the bone cancer.  Not
completely painfree, but very much less and actually had periods without pain.  He was
able to walk without assistance which was nice.  However, that has been wearing off.  He was to
have another radiation round after another bone scan.  The results were similar to the Sept 2013 one
with slightly more concentrated areas.

In the meantime, he was getting weaker.  His blood count was down and 2 more units of blood were
given.  That didn't help as much to bring up his appetite and strength as the first blood given in Oct.
He is back to needing help with every step either with a walker or someone to assist.

The PSA (prostate test) got down to a low of 25.9 which made everyone happy.  Unfortunately, it
didn't remain there.  It started climbing.  Up to 37, then 60, and on up to 94.7.  The present
hormone therapy isn't working, so another one is to be tried.  Plan B in the regime!

That is pretty much where we are at.  Thank you for saying a prayer and wishing him luck.

Share your family all you can and do fun things.  God forbid, but all too soon you may not be able to do either one. 

I wish you a wonderful summer.  Donna

Friday, December 20, 2013

Ralph and Donna Davenport--Wedding Photo 1975

Our Wedding Photo in 1975--How Time Flies

Wishing you Happy Holidays!

First, I would like to wish you a Merry Christmas and a very Happy and Healthy New Year.

In case you have noticed no new posts for awhile, I'm taking a break.  With the extra trips and care
giving duties since my husband was diagnosed with prostate and extensive bone cancer,  I've been
concentrating my time and energy with him.

We first visited the Cancer Center in Oneonta, NY in early October.  At that time, he was quite weak.
He was unable to even take a step without assistance.  I assisted him out of the van right into a wheelchair.
I'm happy to say when we went for his appointment and checkup yesterday, he got out of the van
on his own and walked inside with his cane while I parked.  We still use a wheelchair inside as he
still can't walk very far and that place is a former mall and huge.

For those interested, I will high point information about his illness and treatment regime:

With an elevated PSA (prostate lab test) for some 15 years,  prostate cancer was suspected.  Two
different biopsies were done, but both came back negative.  They apparently missed a hot spot.
He is now 87 and due to his age, nothing further was done since prostate cancer is slow growing
in older men.

 Unfortunately,  the prostate cancer had also been silently spreading to his bones--ALOT
of bones which includes almost every bone except his arms and legs, except for the upper part of
one femur.  The skull is involved also.

The first sign of the bone cancer was low back pain two days after the
TURP (Transurethral Resection of the Prostate) which he opted for to get rid of the catheter that was required  for 3 months after the enlarged prostate caused him to go into kidney failure when it blocked
off urine flow.

For the prostate cancer, hormone therapy via pills was started right away "To put out the fire", as his Urologist put it.  He is on daily hormone pills and a long lasting hormone shot every 3 months.

He was also started on osteoporosis shots to help strengthen the bones.  I'm sure you may have seen that advertisement by the actress with the saying about "Break a leg"!  That shot he gets once a month along with a checkup.

The third part of his treatment was a one-time liquid radiation infusion which goes to all the bones.  The
main reason for this is to reduce the bone pain and to help prolong his life.  This did work like magic and within a few days he had less pain.  In fact, much of the day, he now has no pain.  Before, he hardly was
ever without pain.  Thank you for magic.  He can have that infusion every 3 months as needed if he
tolerates it.  Right now, we are watching a low platelet count that may or may not be from that.
That involves weekly blood tests for now to follow that. 

The PSA came down to 30 from 72 and hopefully will continue to lower.  He has been told he could live
several years since prostate cancer at his age is slow growing.  Now to keep his other health problems
in check and his body in balance. 

Saturday, October 26, 2013

Ekland, Marina Anne Nov. 6-8, 2003 New Lisbon NY Obituary

Marina A. Eklund

NEW LISBON — Marina Anne Eklund, 2 days old, died Saturday, Nov. 8, 2003, at Albany Medical Center.
She is the infant daughter of Robert and Lisa Eklund. She is survived by her three sisters, Gina, Katiemarie and Gabrielle Eklund. She is also survived by her maternal grandparents, Glenn and Mona Waffle of Morris; her paternal grandparents, Robert and Helen Eklund of New Berlin; her parents, Robert and Lisa Eklund of New Lisbon; as well as many loving aunts, uncles and cousins.
There will be no calling hours and memorial services will be held at a later date.
In lieu of flowers, pray for your children.
Arrangements are by the Johnston Funeral Home of Morris.

Published in The Daily Star on Nov. 11, 2003.

Finnigan, Eleanor (Henrich) 1932-2003 Gilbertsville NY Obituary

Eleanor Finnigan

GILBERTSVILLE — Eleanor Henrich Finnigan, 70, of Gilbertsville, died Saturday, Sept. 27, 2003, at her home in Gilbertsville.
She was born on Nov. 28, 1932, in Chicago, Ill., daughter of the late Karl and Augusta (Feld) Henrich.
She married John Finnigan in New York City, on Sept. 13, 1958. Mrs. Finnigan came to Gilbertsville in 1959 with her husband.
She was employed for many years at the former Gilbertsville Central School. She was a member of the Holy Cross Church of Morris, and a member of Our Lady of Mt. Carmel of Osprey, Fla.
She is survived by her husband, John Finnigan, of Gilbertsville; a son, John M. Finnigan and his wife, Jomary, and their children, Joseph, Patrick and Sara of Maitland, Fla., a daughter, Monica Finnigan Buchholz and her husband, Ted, and their children, Ana, Ben, Max, Louise, Karl and Teddy Buchholz of Charlottesville, Va. and a son, Thomas B. Finnigan of Gilbertsville. She is also survived by her brother, Tom Henrich and his wife, Paula, and their children, Kristin, Paul and Michelle of Cincinnati, Ohio.
There will be no calling hours.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at the Holy Cross Church in Morris, at 10 a.m. Tuesday, Sept. 30, 2003, with the Rev. John Burns officiating. Committal services and burial will follow at the Brookside Cemetery in Gilbertsville.
Friends are invited back to the Finnigan home after the burial service for refreshments.
In lieu of flowers, friends are asked to make donations to the Holy Cross Church, Morris, NY 13808, Our Lady of Mt. Carmel, Osprey, FL 34229 or the Gilbertsville Emergency Squad, Gilbertsville, NY 13776.
Funeral arrangements are by the Johnston Funeral Home of Morris.

Published in The Daily Star on Sept. 29, 2003.

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